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How to your represent yourself sexually on the internet (whichever is closest)? 

31%
5 deviants said I'm more open about matters of sex on the internet, but present myself how I really am
25%
4 deviants said I try to be myself
19%
3 deviants said My internet personae reflects my true sexual orientation, but in real life I'm "in the closet."
19%
3 deviants said I have multiple internet personnae with different representations
6%
1 deviant said My internet personae is the one "in the closet."
0%
No deviants said My internet personae is of the opposite sex
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No deviants said I try to keep my internet personae asexual / It's no one's business
0%
No deviants said I like for people to try to figure it out without me saying
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No deviants said None of these fit (Comment if you want. If you note me, I will keep it absolutely confidential and delete it after I read it.)
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No deviants said I don't want to say. Just show me the answers.
In my recent poll, I asked: The stereotype is that, sexually, men are more visual while women are more into story and fantasy. What do you think?

At the time, I felt like I knew what the main answer would be, and I was right. 73% of the respondents said: It's an exaggeration. Men are somewhat more visual, but some women like pictures and some men like stories

What was more interesting to me was how many people would deny (17%) or support the stereotype completely (10%).  No one selected the reversed stereotype answer (women are more visual than men).

The 73% answer basically implies that visualization is an important erotic element for both men and women at least part of the time. The 17% flat denial of the stereotype is another pro-visualization answer. Added to the 73%, it takes it up to 90%. Even in that last 10%, I don't know how many respondents were men and guessing what women think so a part of that could be inaccurate. 

So, if visualization is such a powerful factor in eroticism, what does that mean to me as an author of erotic fiction? To me, it means that a good sex scene is not just about relationship circumstances, predicaments, describing how characters feel about each other, etc. I should also make sure that the right elements are there for readers to paint their own mental images. A visual approach to description in general would seem to be the preferred approach. Feelings, predicaments and characters would build from there--and this seems true for both men and women.

Am I being "Captain Obvious?" Maybe, but the idea that visualization is the primary foundation for all erotic works does not seem to be obvious. 
So there's some established words: smut, erotica, "romance writing"...trash.  I'm not sure they mean the same thing to everyone.  Through it all, I somehow keep struggling for exactly which words to use for two types of written works: One is the plan, straight to the sex stuff.  No significant plot. Maybe some simple background to explain just how the person is forced into the situation or something like that. "I got this package in mail, opened it, and put on all of the clothing...wow, look now, I'm stuck in this awesome latex outfit."  The other type of story has more of a plot, a good milieu, some character development or something a little more literary about it--then gets into the sexy stuff with some rationale and context.

I'm not trying to say anything judgmental about either type. I think they both have their place. I tend to like writing closer to option 2 (so to call it) more, but read them both, depending on my mood. What I'm looking for are names/titles/adjectives for the two styles that differentiate them for discussion and identification purposes.  Any ideas?  I've been throwing "erotica" out there as general name, but it doesn't seem to quite do it.

Update: One website is saying the first type of writing is "erotica" (focuses on the mechanics of sex) while the second is "erotic fiction."   Hmm, not sure if that does it for me.

More: Another website says "porn" for the first type, but I think it's a stretch since I think of the term "pornography" as being linked to visual works.

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Writing erotic fiction to embrace my passions and satisfy my soul.

I love comments/notes/e-mails (it's the only feedback and motivation I get) and invite constructive criticism.

If you find any typos or grammar errors in my work, please note me. I seek total eradication.

I'd love to hear from anyone interested in creating illustrations or visual art related to one of my stories, note me! I don't like to ask because most artists are pretty busy already.

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In my recent poll, I asked: The stereotype is that, sexually, men are more visual while women are more into story and fantasy. What do you think?

At the time, I felt like I knew what the main answer would be, and I was right. 73% of the respondents said: It's an exaggeration. Men are somewhat more visual, but some women like pictures and some men like stories

What was more interesting to me was how many people would deny (17%) or support the stereotype completely (10%).  No one selected the reversed stereotype answer (women are more visual than men).

The 73% answer basically implies that visualization is an important erotic element for both men and women at least part of the time. The 17% flat denial of the stereotype is another pro-visualization answer. Added to the 73%, it takes it up to 90%. Even in that last 10%, I don't know how many respondents were men and guessing what women think so a part of that could be inaccurate. 

So, if visualization is such a powerful factor in eroticism, what does that mean to me as an author of erotic fiction? To me, it means that a good sex scene is not just about relationship circumstances, predicaments, describing how characters feel about each other, etc. I should also make sure that the right elements are there for readers to paint their own mental images. A visual approach to description in general would seem to be the preferred approach. Feelings, predicaments and characters would build from there--and this seems true for both men and women.

Am I being "Captain Obvious?" Maybe, but the idea that visualization is the primary foundation for all erotic works does not seem to be obvious. 
How to your represent yourself sexually on the internet (whichever is closest)?
31%
5 deviants said I'm more open about matters of sex on the internet, but present myself how I really am
25%
4 deviants said I try to be myself
19%
3 deviants said My internet personae reflects my true sexual orientation, but in real life I'm "in the closet."
19%
3 deviants said I have multiple internet personnae with different representations
6%
1 deviant said My internet personae is the one "in the closet."
0%
No deviants said My internet personae is of the opposite sex
0%
No deviants said I try to keep my internet personae asexual / It's no one's business
0%
No deviants said I like for people to try to figure it out without me saying
0%
No deviants said None of these fit (Comment if you want. If you note me, I will keep it absolutely confidential and delete it after I read it.)
0%
No deviants said I don't want to say. Just show me the answers.

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:iconbritslutjenny:
BritslutJenny Featured By Owner Dec 12, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Thanks for +faving Exhibit A, Sir!
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neglected2much Featured By Owner Dec 12, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
You're welcome.  That one matched my tastes especially well.
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AnotherWorker11811 Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thanks for the :+fav:!
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neglected2much Featured By Owner Dec 11, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
I think that's my favorite one of the series, but they're all good.
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revpeng Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Thanks for watching!
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darkstalker1 Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you for adding 'Milking The Moment' to your collection :happybounce: 
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neglected2much Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
You're welcome. You have lots of intriguing stuff in your gallery. The quality of work looks consistently high. I have to take some time and go through it looking for items that match my particular tastes.
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darkstalker1 Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
By all means take your time going through my gallery. I'm sure you'll find some more pieces to your liking.
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Mr-Timeshadow Featured By Owner Nov 20, 2014
Thanks for the watch!
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darkstalker1 Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you for adding me to your WATCH list :happybounce: 
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